After The Lights Go Out feat. Executive Brass
After The Lights Go Out feat. Executive Brass
563-999-3456
https://wetalkradio.com/show/after-the-lights-go-out/
The Kia D Unplugged Show
The Kia D Unplugged Show
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After The Lights Go Out feat. Mandeaux Shoes and T Smiley Productions
After The Lights Go Out feat. Aaron Sharp (CEO) of Mandeaux Shoes and TJ Futrell Jr (CEO) of T Smiley Productions.
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When staying home isn’t staying safe
As the surge in the Covid-19 cases continues, families are required to stay home to protect themselves and their communities. In March, especially stay-at-home orders were put in place, schools were closed, workers furloughed, laid off, or told to work from home for safety. However, the home may not be really a haven for many who experience domestic / family violence, which may include both intimate partners and children.
As of today, the lockdown is over, and restrictions have been lifted in most regions, the pandemic and its effects are still raging on, and the areas that have seen a drop in caseloads are experiencing a second or a third surge.
COVID-19 has not only caused the disconnection of many from community resources and support systems, but this pandemic has also created panic and widespread uncertainty. Such conditions may stimulate violence in families where it did not exist before and worsen situations in homes where mistreatment and violence have been a problem. Violence in the home has an overall cost to society, leading to potentially adverse physical and mental health outcomes, including a higher risk of chronic disease, substance use, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and risky sexual behaviors.
This pandemic has reinforced many important eye-openers: one situation can leave different impacts on different groups of the population. The abusers are empowered, and the victims have no place to go. Inequities related to social factors of health have been magnified too. Moreover, the pandemic has exacerbated financial entanglement by causing increased job loss and unemployment, particularly among women of color, immigrants, and workers without a college education. With people losing employment because of Covid-19, financial dependence on an abusive partner becomes extremely complicated.
This pandemic has shown the gap that needs to be filled to ensure that people who experience abuse can access support, refuge, and care when another disaster hits.
Vani Bhatnagar
Creative Content Writer
Silently witnessing domestic violence
Six years old Jimmy closed himself in the bathroom for two hours when he heard his father shouting and threatening his mother. He has been a silent and fearful witness to such angry behavior of his father many times in the past. Jimmy only feels helpless and scared when his mother gets physically hurt by his father. He constantly lives with the fear that something may happen again and even he could be the target of abuse.
Not just in Jimmy, exposure to domestic violence can create a trauma experience in every single child and youth who witnesses it, and can damage their mental, social, and emotional growth. Some children learn to resolve their conflicts in violent manner, some lose the ability to feel empathy for others as keeping themselves immune to the pain their parents are undergoing becomes a means of protection from pain. Others feel socially isolated, unable to make friends as easily due to social discomfort or confusion over what is acceptable. These kids can feel emotional and physical "aftershocks" for months or even years. They can relive the event again and again in their minds, and be less able to function normally in their day-to-day lives. Some may become more aggressive, violent, and self-destructive. Children and youth exposed to violence tend to repeat violence they have experienced; they perpetuate a cycle of violence that can continue throughout future generations.
Considering these facts, many communities have come forward to help create more comprehensive systems of care to respond to the unique experiences and complex needs of such children and youth.
“Heels On The Move To Heal” (HOTMTH) has initiated programs and organized various events focusing the need to inspire hope and build confidence for life in such youth, besides supporting the organizations dedicated to this cause. "Youth On The Move To Heal" by HOTMTH promotes awareness and educates youth on domestic violence while giving them a platform to be creative to protect these silent but vulnerable witnesses to family violence.
Vani Bhatnagar
He is re-inventing me
Babysitting the Scale
We live in a society that operates on numbers. We use the numbers from the Dow Jones to see if the market is up or down. We base our elections of leaders on the number of votes. When it comes to businesses we like to look at the total sales each day, month, quarter, and year. The most popular number is reflected on the scale. The number on the scale displays to most of us either how hard we have worked or how bad we have slacked off. In general, as a society we obese over numbers. We allow numbers to define us. Unfortunately stressing over numbers has led to the creation of several psychological disorders and conditions.
At the beginning of my journey I found myself babysitting the scale. I would wake up everyday and run to the scale. My mood would change based on the number I saw reflected on the scale. There were days that I felt like my hard work was not enough. I would cry. I would be so hard on myself. Deep inside I would yell at myself “Come on Chrystal what are you doing wrong now?” I thought the solution was to run more or maybe I should skip some meals. I would skip meals, spend hours in the gym and the number on the scale would not move. It was frustrating. My trainer would tell me to weigh myself one time each week on the same day at the same time. Of course, because I wanted to see how I was doing I would weigh each day. It seemed like a never-ending battle.
When you are a babysitter of the scale, you miss the beauty of the journey you are on. When you want the numbers to be perfect its hard to present in the smallest victorious moments. We determine how our journey will go. We can have fun or be miserable. I get it we want to have a sense of accomplishment but sometimes it takes time. You are not doing anything wrong. Sometimes we are so focused on numbers that we miss the small victories that are not always seen when it comes to numbers.
Babysitting the scale can be very lonely and frustrating. The weight loss journey requires us to love ourselves even when the scale doesn’t move. I get it you want your hard work to be seen and you want to be heard. No one understands your struggle of pursuing progress but you. I can tell you now that hovering over the scale takes the joy out of the journey. The compliments of the others went through one ear and out the other because my mind would be so consumed with the number, I got that morning.
Do you want to be freed from your babysitting duties?
1. Make a commitment to weigh in one day per week. Weight can fluctuate especially for females. There are so many factors. To get an accurate reading weigh yourself the same day and time every week.
2. Take a selfie every week. Sometimes our progress can be shown through a picture even if we can’t see it on the scale. See if you can get your body fat checked.
3. Learn to love yourself no matter what the scale says. Your love for yourself is greater and much louder than the number that you see.
4. Seek counseling. There might be some issues that you have to address along the way. Things that are surfacing that you never though exist.
5. Journal your journey. Write down everything. How you felt, what you ate, and etc. Its so important to document your joys, fears, pains, and etc.
6. Understand that weight loss takes time. There’s no such thing as overnight success.
7. You are a winner. The fact that you wake up everyday trying to be a better version of you. The fact that you are pursuing a healthier life. You are a winner
COMING SOON new book project : Journaling Your Journey. Stay Tuned!!