Celebrating 4 Asian American and Pacific Islander Changemakers

Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage Month

 

May is Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage month. Here at WeTalkRadio Network we want to highlight Asian American and Pacific Islander individuals who have made an impact on the world! 

 

Peter Tsai

One Asian American and Pacific Islander, or AAPI, who has done great things to help our world is Peter Tsai. He is a Taiwanese American who created the N95 mask. He led a team that created the mask while he was a professor at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. Even though he retired in 2018, he came out of retirement in 2020 to help find new ways to disinfect N95 masks. He has been instrumental in getting COVID-19 under control.

 

Eric Yuan

Another AAPI that has played a big role during the pandemic is Eric Yuan. Born in China, Yuan moved to Silicon Valley in 1997. He quickly got started working on American technology, and founded Zoom in 2011. In 2020, Zoom technology became a huge part of most people’s lives. If it weren’t for Eric Yuan, communicating would have been exponentially more difficult during these trying times.

 

Lisa Ling

One more AAPI to watch is Lisa Ling. She is a journalist who has been prolific over the last 30 years of her journalism career. She has had many journalistic roles over the years, including being a co-host on The View, hosting National Geographic’s Explorer, and being a special correspondent on The Oprah Winfrey Show. Today, she covers profound topics while traveling across the country on her show This is Life With Lisa Ling airing on CNN.

Rupi Kaur

Additionally, Rupi Kaur is an up and coming AAPI poet. She initially gained popularity by sharing her poetry and associated drawings on the social media website Tumblr. In 2014, she self-published her poetry book Milk and Honey. It covers feminists topics, including immigration, relationships, and trauma. Her book quickly gained popularity on social media, and was re-published by Andrews McMeel Publishing. It has now sold more than three million copies. Rupi Kaur has since published two more books, titled The Sun and Her Flowers and Home Body.

 


I Didn't Let Anxiety Ruin My Life

My Anxiety Story

In 2019, I was on a family vacation, about to eat dinner at a nice restaurant, when suddenly I began to feel nauseous. I didn’t know what was going, I had never felt nauseous for no reason before. Interrupting the lively conversation about our plans to go to Disney World the next day, I told my parents that my stomach hurt really bad and I needed to go back to the hotel to lie down. After laying in agonizing pain for an hour, I decided that I should go to the ER before things got worse and ruined any more of our trip. 

 

The doctor at the emergency room said that it seemed that my symptoms were caused by constipation. He gave me some medicine to help me get through the trip, and recommended I see more doctors once I got back home. I was able to get through the trip without feeling too awful, although I did have to skip half of the activities so I could rest up.

 

Once getting back home, I visited my primary care doctor. After explaining to her everything that was going on, she said that it seemed like all of my symptoms were caused by anxiety and depression. It had never crossed my mind that those were the reasons for my sickness. Mental health wasn’t something that my family and friends talked about often, but I was getting ready to move across the country to go to college, so it made sense that anxiety and depression would go along with it. 

 

Following my diagnosis, I partook in some reflection. Looking back on my life, it seemed that I had always had a touch of anxiety, but it wasn’t until I got to high school that I started to experience physical and symptoms due to it. I felt nauseous every morning my junior year, and I assumed it was due to lack of sleep. But looking back, I had just started at a new school and hadn’t made many friends yet, so the nausea was actually a symptom of my mental illness. 

 

Leaving my parents and going to college was just such a monumental event that it set my anxiety and depression over the edge to the point where it began to take over my life. My primary care doctor has prescribed the drug Lexapro to take, to limit my anxiety and depression. I took it for about four months, from July to October, and did not see any changes in my symptoms.

 

On the contrary, once I arrived at college my symptoms worsened. Being in a dorm made me feel like I was constantly being watched, as there was no privacy. People were always around, which made my social anxiety go off the rails. I began having diarrhea every single day, multiple times a day. It was difficult for me to eat because I felt sick all the time, and when I did I had to use the bathroom immediately after. I had to take Pepto Bismol all the time just to be able to attend class. I weaned myself off of the Lexapro, because it didn’t seem to make a difference and I forgot to take it every once in a while anyways. That was a rough time in my life. 

 

Over my school’s fall break, in November, I went to see a different primary care doctor to see if she had any different advice than the first doctor I saw had. After explaining my situation and symptoms to her, she agreed that I had anxiety with a hint of depression. However, in addition to that, she diagnosed me with IBS, otherwise known as Irritable Bowel Syndrome. She explained to me that many people with anxiety have IBS, as well, because anxiety can affect one’s digestion. She prescribed a fiber supplement to me, called FiberCon, that was supposed to calm my stomach and help with constipation and diarrhea. 

 

I have been taking FiberCon everyday for a year and half now, and my anxiety and depression symptoms are as limited as they have been since I began high school. Yes, I do occasionally have an upset stomach when I am stressed about a school project or meeting someone new, but nowhere near the extent that it was my first semester of college. This is all to say that even when you feel like your mental illness is taking over your life, there is a way out of it. Don’t give up on yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

 

For those of you that experience symptoms of anxiety and depression like I do, here are some of the coping mechanisms that I employ to take back control of my mind. First, I like to do breathing exercise. I know that this is a common one that most people already know about, but it really does work. When I feel my anxiety start to build up, I take slow, deep breaths until I start to calm down. The great thing about this one is it can be done in public without anyone around you knowing. 

 

Another thing that I do is sing and dance by myself. Yes, this sounds silly, but it really works. When I’ve had a bad day and am feeling stressed and depressed, I turn on some of my favorite music,do a little karaoke, and have a little dance party for myself. When I do this, it’s hard to get into it at first because I don’t feel happy and I’m not in the mood to sing and dance, but after faking being happy for a few minutes, I start to feel actually happy! Trust me, this works.

 

WeTalkRadio Network will be posting mental health related content all month long, so make sure to check back often for updates!


10 Ways to Cope With Anxiety

10 Ways to Cope With Anxiety

As a person with anxiety, I know that it can be hard to do even the simplest of things some days. A lot of people associate anxiety with being nervous, but it is much more than that. Anxiety can be debilitating to the point where it can be hard to get out of bed. Some people have panic attacks daily due to the severity of their anxiety. However, I have found some coping mechanisms that make it easier. Here is a list of 10 things one can do to manage their anxiety symptoms.

 

1. Listen to nostalgic music

Listening to music is a common technique to soothe anxiety because it distracts from stressors as well as has a calming effect. Nostalgic music specifically, such as music from one’s childhood or music that is associated with a happy memory, helps relieve anxiety. Listening to something that used to bring you joy is likely to bring you joy again.

2. Play a simple mobile game

While playing phone games may seem like something that is only appealing to kids, it is actually a great way to cope with anxiety. Next time you feel your anxiety building up, or a panic attack coming on, open up Candy Crush or Fruit Ninja. You may be surprised about how much it helps take your mind off of what is causing your anxiety.

3. Workout

Yes, exercising is something that is commonly recommended to help with anxiety and it doesn’t work for everyone, but it really does help most people. Doing a difficult exercise forces your mind to focus just on the physical movement, and not on the stress inside of one’s head. It releases endorphins that greatly help, as well. Additionally, working out should be fun! If you don’t enjoy the workout you are doing, try something else! Personally, I really like doing dance workouts. They don’t feel like exercise, they just feel like I’m dancing and having fun! If you’re interested you can find tons of dance workout videos on Youtube to try!

4. Do breathing exercises

A common breathing technique that helps my anxiety is 4x4 breathing. Count to 4 while you take a breath in, then count to four as you let the breath out. This slow and controlled breathing serves as a way to concentrate one's focus, as well as slow one’s pulse, which creates calmness and decreases anxiety. 

5. Write in a journal

Another great way to decrease anxiety is journaling. Writing your thoughts in a journal gives your thoughts a place to rest, so they aren’t racing through your brain anymore. Sometimes putting your thoughts into writing is all it takes to make the overthinking stop. Journaling also helps you to process and analyze your thoughts, so something that is causing anxiety may not cause as much once you are able to analyze it through the journaling process.

6. Reduce your intake of coffee and other caffeinated products

As you may already know, drinking caffeine, especially coffee, can spike anxiety. The caffeine in coffee enters the system quickly, which causes an increased pulse, thus increasing anxiety. It also leaves the system abruptly, which can leave you feeling lackluster. If giving up caffeine isn’t in the cards for you, try green or black tea instead. The caffeine in tea isn’t as strong and it enters and leaves your system gradually, rather than quickly and abruptly, therefore it doesn’t have such a bad effect on one's anxiety.

7. Take a bath

A warm, luxurious bath can do wonders for anxiety. The warm water eases tense muscles, which releases tension in the body as well as the mind. Take it a step further and light a candle or throw in a bath bomb to make it a full-on self-care experience.

8. List things you’re grateful for

Sometimes anxiety can put a spotlight on all of the bad things going on and make you lose sight of the good things in your life. To cope with this, it’s helpful to list what you are grateful for. The list can be in your head, or you can create a physical list. If you want to go the extra mile with it, a gratitude journal is a good option, as well.

9. Do a grounding exercise

In high-anxiety situations, grounding exercises can help one focus on the task at hand and stop one’s mind from spinning. There are several different grounding exercises to choose from, but a common one is 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. To complete the exercise, start with a deep breath, then look for 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. When you find these things, name them outloud, or at least mouth the words to create a physical experience to go along with the mental exercise. Take a deep breath to complete the exercise.

10. Talk to someone

I know that it can be hard to open up to others about anxiety, because there is a fear that they might not understand why your brain works that way. But if they really care about you, they will not judge you for it and will be happy you opened up to them. Talking to a friend or family member about what makes you anxious can help relieve anxiety, so give a try next time your anxiety flares up.

 


Rape Culture Widespreading In India

Rape Culture in India

 

In the last over a decade, India has acquired a new title – the rape capital of the world. According to a report by the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), over 4 lakh reported cases of crimes committed against women in 2019, up from 3.78 lakh in 2018 and 3.59 lakh cases in 2017. NCRB reported 32,033 rape cases which translate to a shocking 88 rape cases a day -- and this is just 10% of all crimes against women. Experts say that picture could be far worse as most such crimes go unreported in the country, and the conviction rate is below 30%.

Several gang rape cases caused widespread outrage across the nation and highlighted the fact that how pervasive sexual violence is in the country. The cases that shook up the entire nation – Unnav rape case, 19-year-old lower caste woman was gang-raped by four upper-caste men, Kathua rape case (2018), Hyderabad rape and murder case to name a few. In 2012, the heinous and ghastly Delhi Nirbhaya rape case exposed the grim reality of bestial crimes against women in India. In this case, a 23-year student was raped and brutally murdered. The barbaric nature of the crime appalled the country and brought worldwide attention to the rape crisis of India. The government sought to appease the widespread street protests in many cities and lawmakers were forced to refer this case to a fast-track court, and the judgment was pronounced in less than a year. The law concerning violence against women was amended by the Parliament. The maximum punishment for rape resulting in death (or vegetative state) of the victim was modified from life imprisonment to include the death penalty. Other laws related to sexual crime were made stricter, in the hope that this would deter people from committing such crimes.

This case caught international headlines, and the convicts, after a supposedly historic judgment, were executed after 10 years. Right after two weeks of this judgment, a 23-year-old girl from North India was assaulted and doused in gasoline before setting her on fire. In the wake of such cases, India made the law to hand out the death penalty to the convicts of sexually assaulting a child under 12 years of age. Unfortunately, these laws do not seem to create fear for the abusers and rapists, and the number of these ghastly crimes against women is only increasing.

 

Who is responsible?

Culturally, Indian society is a patriarchal society where women are considered as secondary citizens. Children internalize this “value” from a very young age. The birth of a boy in a family is a highly celebrated occasion while on the birth of a girl child, the mother is often subjected to abuse. The demands and desires of a boy are considered superior to that of a girl child. These values are programmed in the Indian mindset. Sex-selective abortion, infanticide, and discrimination continue through adolescent and adult life with high levels of female infant mortality, child marriage, teenage pregnancy, lesser wages for women, unsafe workplaces, domestic violence, maternal mortality, sexual assault, and neglect of elderly women… the list just goes on that highlight the patriarchal nature of Indian society. Marital rapes are very common too but hardly reported to protect the family honor.

Indian society highly stigmatizes the victims of sexual assault or rape and victim shaming is very common. What she was wearing, what time she was traveling alone, were her gesture suggestive, or maybe she was smoking or drinking to give wrong signals to offenders, and the list goes on.

For men, it starts with “men will be men”. A minister from the government even suggested women give in while being raped so the rapists do not commit a heinous crime after the act or murder the victim. A judge even stepped ahead and said that because a smaller number of marriages taking place due to coronavirus lockdown, it is natural for men to rape in a bid of fulfilling their sexual desires.

These highly offensive remarks again highlight the deep-rooted social prejudice against women and emphasize how Indian society objectifies women, and how men are just born superior to women.

 

The increasing socioeconomic divide

India today is one of the fastest developing economies in the world. But benefits of the accelerating economic growth and the westernization of culture due to globalization are not reaching all social and economic classes equally. The upper-middle-class and rich class are the biggest beneficiaries of globalization and have accelerated the adoption of western-style dressing. This socio-economic and cultural divide is going broader by the day and manifesting in terms of the increase in the crime rate. In many rape cases, the convicts confessed their intention of teaching the woman a lesson for hurting the so-called Indian culture by wearing pants or staying out till late. Ironically, men are never punished for wearing western attire or not acting exactly what the culture teaches.

Caste dynamics permeate every aspect of Indian society. Cast-based rivalries, and sometimes religion-based ones become prime motivational reasons for sexual violence. Sexual violence against marginalized groups including tribal people and lower caste (who form the bottom of social hierarchy) is very pervasive.

Here rape becomes the show of power and an exercise to show the lower-class people their place and vulnerabilities.

 

The awakening of hope

After the widespread outrage against the sexual crimes, protests by thousands of people across the country demanding justice have pushed for strong penalties in the long-running court proceedings. More cases are being reported the government is being called on to address the broad pandemic of sexual crimes against women.

 


History of Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2021

Sexual Assault Awareness Month April 2021

 

Preventing sexual assault or sexual violence from happening is a community-wide effort and responsibility. The movement to end sexual violence began with (and continues to be driven today by) community advocacy, student activism, and grassroots community organizing. In cultivating this social change Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) has been playing an important role. Observed each April, SAAM is a campaign that aims to increase awareness about the causes and risk factors for sexual assault and empower individuals to take steps to prevent it in their communities. The SAAM campaign works with a variety of non-profit organizations and foundations to spread the message of awareness and prevention through educational programs, public events, and petitions for legislative action.

 

History of Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April 2021 marks the 20th anniversary of Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), but its history goes way beyond that. In the 1970s activists organized events on the national level to reduce sexual assault and violence against women and tried to bring this once considered a taboo, open for public discussion out of shadows, and shed light on the widespread problem of sexual assault.

In 1971, the first rape crisis center, Bay Area Women Against Rape was opened with the goals of providing counseling and advocacy for survivors and community education. This opened the way for more groups and organizations to form and in 1976, the first Take Back the Night Rally brought attention to Sexual Assault related issues. In 1994, Congress passed the Violence Against the Women Act (VAWA) to treat domestic violence as a crime, not as a private matter. VAWA was also designed to strengthen legal protections for victims of domestic violence and sexual violence as well as expand services to survivors and their children.

The First official Sexual Assault Awareness Month once again brought the issue into public consciousness and revived the events and support groups that raised awareness and provide resources to survivors and those at risk. The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) supports a network of over a thousand rape crisis centers. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center was established in 2000 by the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape and the Center for Disease Control. In 2001, the NSVRC coordinated the first formally recognized national Sexual Assault Awareness Month campaign and still facilitates it today.

 

Sexual violence is an umbrella term that includes any type of unwanted sexual contact — either in person or online — including sexual assault, harassment, and abuse.

  • Forms of sexual violence include:
  • Rape or sexual assault
  • Sexual harassment
  • Sexual abuse
  • Unwanted sexual contact/touching
  • Sexual exploitation and trafficking
  • Exposing one’s genitals or naked body to others without consent
  • Nonconsensual image sharing
  • Words and actions of a sexual nature against a person’s will and without their consent
  • Sexual violence represents a range of behaviors

Sexual Assault Awareness Month April 2021

Sexual Assault Awareness Month April 2021

 

Preventing sexual assault or sexual violence from happening is a community-wide effort and responsibility. The movement to end sexual violence began with (and continues to be driven today by) community advocacy, student activism, and grassroots community organizing. In cultivating this social change Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) has been playing an important role. Observed each April, SAAM is a campaign that aims to increase awareness about the causes and risk factors for sexual assault and empower individuals to take steps to prevent it in their communities. The SAAM campaign works with a variety of non-profit organizations and foundations to spread the message of awareness and prevention through educational programs, public events, and petitions for legislative action.

 

History of Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April 2021 marks the 20th anniversary of Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), but its history goes way beyond that. In the 1970s activists organized events on the national level to reduce sexual assault and violence against women and tried to bring this once considered a taboo, open for public discussion out of shadows, and shed light on the widespread problem of sexual assault.

In 1971, the first rape crisis center, Bay Area Women Against Rape was opened with the goals of providing counseling and advocacy for survivors and community education. This opened the way for more groups and organizations to form and in 1976, the first Take Back the Night Rally brought attention to Sexual Assault related issues. In 1994, Congress passed the Violence Against the Women Act (VAWA) to treat domestic violence as a crime, not as a private matter. VAWA was also designed to strengthen legal protections for victims of domestic violence and sexual violence as well as expand services to survivors and their children.

The First official Sexual Assault Awareness Month once again brought the issue into public consciousness and revived the events and support groups that raised awareness and provide resources to survivors and those at risk. The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) support a network of over a thousand rape crisis centers. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center was established in 2000 by the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape and the Center for Disease Control. In 2001, the NSVRC coordinated the first formally recognized national Sexual Assault Awareness Month campaign and still facilitates it today.

 

Sexual violence is an umbrella term that includes any type of unwanted sexual contact — either in person or online — including sexual assault, harassment, and abuse.

  • Forms of sexual violence include:
  • Rape or sexual assault
  • Sexual harassment
  • Sexual abuse
  • Unwanted sexual contact/touching
  • Sexual exploitation and trafficking
  • Exposing one’s genitals or a naked body to others without consent
  • Nonconsensual image sharing
  • Words and actions of a sexual nature against a person’s will and without their consent
  • Sexual violence represents a range of behaviors

10 Books You Should Read During Sexual Assault Awareness Month

By Kaitlin Graham

 

This month is National Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and WeTalkRadio Network is focusing on telling survivors stories and sharing resources to help those experience sexual and domestic violence. Written word is a medium often used by survivors to tell their story and relate to others who are going through similar things. Here is a list of 10 books written by and about survivors that you may want to add to your reading list.

 

  1. Blackout Girl: Tracing My Scars from Addiction and Sexual Assault; With New and Updated Content for the #MeToo Era by Jennifer Storm
    1. Jennifer Storm was first assaulted at the age of 12, and turned to alcohol to help numb the pain. In this book, she tells her touching story in the hopes of helping others learn how to use their pain as an instrument to heal through advocating for themselves and others.
  2. SOSA - Survivors of Sexual Assault: 14-Day Devotional by Tina Wilson
    1. This book was written by Tina Wilson as an aid for victims of sexual violence to transition from victim to survivor. Tina Wilson is a former victim of rape and sexual assault, and her goal is to use what she learned from her experience transitioning from victim to surivor to help others. She writes positive monologues to help encourage survivors throughout their difficult transition.
  3. The Survivor Memoirs: Childhood Sexual Abuse by Joanne Kimberly
    1. This book is a collection of memoirs personally written by childhood sexual abuse survivors. Complied by Joanne Kimberly, these extraordinary stories are written by people with great strength and perseverance. This book is a great option for those who want to connect with others that have similar stories, as well as those who are  interested in learning about what they can do to help victims of childhood sexual abuse.
  4. I Have the Right To: A High School Survivor's Story of Sexual Assault, Justice, and Hope by Chessy Prout and Jenn Abelson
    1. Published in 2018, this book was a poignant addition to the Me Too Movement. As a freshman in high school, Chessy Prout was sexually assaulted by a senior boy. She bravely reported what happened to her, but instead of being supported by her school community, she received unexpected backlash.  She fought for justice, and in telling her story she provides solutions to end the rape culture that is so prevalent in our society today.
  5. Purple Speaks: Poetry by Sexual Assault Survivors by Stephanie Y. Evans and Sharnell D. Myles (editors)
    1. Barnes and Noble provides an overview for this book that reads, “Purples Sparks - A collection of poems by sexual assault survivors is a riveting collection of human voices that brings awareness, advocacy, and power to the issue of sexual assault.
  6. How to Respond When Someone Tells You About Sexual Assault: Lessons from a Sexual Assault Survivor by Amanda Rivers
    1. This book serves as an excellent source for people looking to learn how to help people in their lives who have experience sexual assault. Amanda Rivers is a survivor, and her goal is to educate non-survivors on best practices in response to hearing someone’s sexual assault story.
  7. We Are the Murder Victims Who Lived: A Survivor's Truth on Sexual Assault by S. K. Menelle
    1. This book depicts a courageous survivor’s first hand experience with sexual assault. It may be hard to read at times because it doesn’t hold anything back. However, it can serve as a source of hope and comfort for current and past victims of sexual abuse. It also can help those whose loved ones have been abused sexually by aiding in the navigation of the unknown territory that the transition from victim to survivor can bring.
  8. Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault by Justin S. Holcomb and Lindsey A. Holcomb
    1. The authors of this book speak on the pain and dejection that many survivors feel after they have been assaulted. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb counsel victims of sexual assault. They help lead victims towards the path of hope and healing in a physical, spiritual, emotional, and psychological sense. They wrote this in hopes of reaching more survivors and helping them begin or continue the healing process.
  9. We Believe You: Survivors of Campus Sexual Assault Speak Out  by Annie E. Clark and Andrea L. Pino
    1. Sadly college campuses are riddled with sexual assaults. In this anthology, real survivors of campus sexual assault boldy come forward to share their stories. People from all backgrounds are featured and tell their stories of everyday activism.
  10. Shattering Silences: Strategies to Prevent Sexual Assault, Heal Survivors, and Bring Assailants to Justice by Christopher Johnson
    1. This book tells about the roles of police, prosecutors, nurses, and rape crisis professionals in helping victims after they have been raped or sexually assaulted. It covers new-age approaches to dealing with the aftermath of an assault, including the treatment of victims and the pursuit and prosecution of perpetrators. 

Life is beautiful even through a tragedy

 

-- by Jeffrey Gregory

Every child deserves loving, caring, protecting parents, and a beautiful world full of opportunities and possibilities around them. Unfortunately, some children receive abuse, neglect, and loneliness from their families and surroundings instead of affection and nurturing. One of my collogues, Ms. Keeks is one of those unfortunate children who had to endure assaults and neglect throughout their childhood, yet this 21-year-old young woman is among a few inspiring and courageous women who not only came out with their stories but also find compassion and understanding for others in the scars of their emotional wounds.

 

Meet Keeks

 

The early years of Keeks’ childhood life were wonderful. She was the happiest child around without a care in the world, as most young girls should be. However, the innocence, the happiness were shattered when a dark and deep family secret came to light to the five-year-old Keeks. She learned that she was adopted, and after learning this scary news her life turned upside down, in all the wrong ways.

 

“My life turned to hell,” Keeks said. “Physical and sexual abuse and other major changes came into the picture and I began saying ‘I cannot wait to die.”

 

After finding out about her adoption Keeks felt like nothing more than just a pawn within the family unit, just going along with other people’s moves. Keeks would be psychically beaten up leaving her severely hurt, and not to mention the emotionally abused. She would always be told different forms of the truth about who she was and where she came from.

 

You are probably wondering how could this happen to such an innocent young girl? These are questions we will never know. This type of abuse to young children leads to future terrible trauma memories and can lead to severe depression or suicide. Keeks said that in her darkest of times she would go to the local train tracks to find peace and solace. “I would always go to the train tracks; it was my safe space,” Keeks said. “I even once tried to kill myself there.”

 

Keeks remembers a time in school where she wrote a suicide note in class along with a poem to go with it. Thankfully, the note fell out of her pocket and her teacher found it and told another teacher about it. After getting caught Keeks ripped up the note in the smallest of pieces so no one would be able to place it back together to read what it said.

 

After being taken to the hospital for suicide watch, the hospital staff worked desperately to place the ripped-up note back into place. Luckily, they got the note “fully” together and discovered the pain, suffering, trauma, and abuse Keeks was living with. She had no choice but to be put into a mental hospital.

 

Through all the trauma and abuse, Keeks still found ways to keep herself occupied and busy with her hobbies. She enjoyed reading books and writing stories. She realized her writing skills when she just four by writing short stories of the home life she wished she had. Keeks also found serenity in writing poems to get her emotions out and express herself what she had experienced throughout her young life. For some people, writing comes easier as the expression of their inner selves, and Keeks is one of them.

 

“My aunt hated that I wrote so much that she would take my journals and expose things to people,” Keeks said about her aunt. “A lot of the time my writings would get me hurt, so I had to write in secret and never share my writings.”

 

It is called Sweet 16 for a reason, and that is just what it was for Keeks when she was 16 when she was put back into foster care. For the past 11-12 years of her life, she had been living through the horrors of abuse from family, dealing with decisions on whether to live or go on and even had to live on the streets when her aunt kicked her out and told her to never come back. Because of her emotional distress, Keeks almost got expelled from school and was put into foster care, which saved her life.

 

Before we go into what Keeks did next, let us acknowledge the woman who helped shaped that lost 16-year-old girl - Ms. Lizzetta, Keeks foster mom’s best friend.

 

“We shared an unspoken understanding between us since the day we met.” Keeks reminisces about the time she spent with Lizzetta. Being angry at the world for everything she had received so far in her young life, Lizzetta was there to offer her shoulder to cry on. She was the only one to sit down and talk with Keeks. “She was the first person I opened up to about the sexual abuse I experienced for years,” Keeks said. “She and I walked a similar path, so she knew how to help me, letting me be vulnerable enough to talk but conscious enough to not force me to talk if I broke down.”

 

Though Keeks never really lived with Lizzetta, though she did want to adopt Keeks. However, because she was still living in foster care with her aunt holding custody the state was only concerned with reuniting Keeks with her “family”, as it was in the state’s best interest for families to be together.

 

One week later Keeks was sent to a foster home in Cleveland, Ohio. Immediately, Keeks knew this was not going to be an ideal situation for her. Not long into her stay in Cleveland Keeks was raped by her childhood rapist, who just so happened to live on the same street. To make matters worse, Keeks would be sexually assaulted again by another person and would now be sent to another foster home. With no help from caseworkers or her foster parents, Keeks had to find a way to succeed on her own after being separated from Lizzetta.

 

She found a way.

 

After graduating high school in Ohio, Keeks decided to attend Youngstown State University where she wanted to major in psychology. A large reason Keeks decided to stay local was due in part to her grandfather who was very sick, and she knew no one would give their time of day to help him. But Keeks decided to stay and help. That is who she is. Unfortunately, after three weeks into college, her grandfather passed away.

 

This led Keeks down a rough road for a bit while she self-medicated with drugs and alcohol, but she found a way to dig herself out of her hole, and she found a way to thrive. She finally found ways to cope with her childhood traumas.

 

One day, Keeks came up with the idea to help people who have been in her shoes. She came up with the idea of a project called “Kickin It Wit Keeks”. She started the project because when she would go back to foster homes, detention centers, old classrooms, etc. she realized if she were to talk to these kids who were dealing with similar traumatized pain, maybe it would help them; and her. One random day one of her kids was visiting and told her ‘you know it’s always fun kicking it with you. That was the moment “Kickin It Wit Keeks” began.

 

“I would share my story of where I started and where I’m currently standing”. Keeks said.

 

One day at school, Keeks decided to skip class to attend an MC Lyte event on campus. Keeks was a huge fan, so she couldn’t miss it. “It was one of the best decisions I could have ever made for myself,” Keeks said. “She told a little bit of her life story and the barriers she had to overcome to get to be the woman she is”. Keeks was even lucky enough to meet her idol and snap a few photos with MC Lyte in the process.

 

Keeks found the courage to leave Cleveland for Detroit because she missed Lizzetta, and Keeks being Keeks will do just about anything for her little sister and her family.

 

While living in Detroit, Keeks started doing some charity work during the holiday season. Her cause targeted to help the homeless in Detroit. One December she decided to take up fundraisers for the Detroit Rescue Mission, who planned one giving them $1.95 for one meal; All Keek’s donations were quadrupled. Keeks set her goal to raise $585, after the effect of quadrupling that $585 became $2,340. Enough for 1,200 meals.

 

Today, you can find Keeks establishing her transitional housing center for young children that will provide them with the necessities and resources needed to have a fair chance growing up and not to have to worry about surviving. Keeks would like to continue growing with WeTalkRadio Network and working with everyone else on the team.

 

“I am learning so much here from Ms. Kia and everyone else on the team who have other outward effects on different aspects of my life,” Keeks said of her time working with WeTalkRadio Network. “This has given me the tools I didn’t know how to come up with on my own for my other endeavors, it is a great experience!”

 

10 years from now Keeks sees herself as a well-established professional with many entities thriving to provide for children and young adults. Also, Keeks will be making “Kickin It Wit Keeks” a nonprofit foundation.

 

We all have scars inside and out, we all have freckles from emotional wounds and broken hearts, but Keeks is the one who has adorned herself with tattoos on her scars as she sees the beauty of the character as the grace point between what hurts and what heals, between the shadow of tragedy and the light of joy.

 


The extraordinary Maya Angelou

Celebrating Women's History Month

Marguerite Annie Johnson Angelou known as Maya Angelou was an American author, civil rights activist, actress, screenwriter, dancer, poet and award-winning author best known for her award-winning memoir,I Know Why the Caged Birds Sing– the first American best seller by an African American woman. Angelou received several honors throughout her career, including two NAACP Image Awards in the outstanding literary work (nonfiction) category, in 2005 and 2009.

Early life

Born on April 4th, 1928 in St Louis, Missouri, Angelou had a difficult childhood. She and her brother Bailey had to live with her father’s mother in Arkansas after their parents split up. Not only she experienced firsthand racial discrimination during these early years, but she was also sexually assaulted by her mother’s boyfriend at the age of seven. Traumatized by this incident, Angelou stopped talking and stayed virtually silent for five years. During this silence, she found her love in poetry.

Angelou as the first black female cable car conductor

During the World War II Angelou moved to San Francisco, California, where she received a scholarship to study dance and acting at the California Labor School. Angelou became the first black female cable car conductor – a job that she held briefly.

Angelou as a singer, artist, and activist

In 1950s, she landed a role in a touring production of Porgy and Bess, later appearing in the off-Broadway production Calypso Heat Wave (1957) and releasing her first album, Miss Calypso (1957). Soon she became a member of the Harlem Writers Guild and a civil rights activist and she organized and starred in the musical revue Cabaret for Freedom as a benefit for the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, also serving as the SCLC's northern coordinator.  In 1961, Angelou appeared in an off-Broadway production of Jean Genet's The Blacks with James Earl Jones, Lou Gossett Jr. and Cicely Tyson. In 1973, Angelou went on to earn a Tony Award nomination for her role in a play – Look Away and an Emmy Award nomination for her work on the television miniseries Roots in 1977.

Angelou as an editor and a freelance writer

 

Living first in Egypt and then in Ghana, Angelou worked as an editor and a freelance writer in 1960s besides holding a position at the University of Ghana for a time. In Ghana, she also joined a community of "Revolutionist Returnees” exploring pan-Africanism and became close with human rights activist and Black nationalist leader Malcolm X. In 1964, upon returning to the United States, Angelou helped Malcolm X set up the Organization of Afro-American Unity.

Angelou’s famous poems

Angelou’s several collections of poetry gained fame but her most famous was “Just give me a cool drink ‘fore I Diie (1971)” which was also nominated for Pulitzer Prize.

Other famous collections of Angelou’s poetry include:

 

In January 1993, Angelou recited On the Pulse of Morning, at the President Bill Clinton’s inaugural ceremony, a poem she especially wrote for this occasion. She won a Grammy award as the best-spoken word album, for the audio version of the poem.

Other well-known poems by Angelou include:

  • His Day Is Done (1962), a tribute poem Angelou wrote for Nelson Mandela as he made his secret journey from Africa to London
  • Amazing Peace (2005), written by Angelou for the White House tree-lighting ceremony

Angelou’s Books

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings is Angelou’s enormously successful memoir about her childhood and young years. The poignant story made literary history as the first nonfiction bestseller by an African American woman. The book, which made Angelou an international star, continues to be regarded as her most popular autobiographical work. In 1995, Angelou was lauded for remaining on The New York Times' paperback nonfiction bestseller list for two years—the longest-running record in the chart's history.

Angelou and her work have inspired millions of Americans and the people of world. Her success and her work despite her difficult life paved the way for many African Americans writers, and millions of people across the globe for whom Maya Angelou is a true hero. This includes the youngest inaugural poet Amanda Gorman too, who proudly adorned the pendant of a caged bird during her recital at the President Biden’s inaugural address honoring Angelou’s I know why the caged bird sings.

1995, Angelou was lauded for remaining on The New York Times' paperback nonfiction bestseller list for two years—the longest-running record in the chart's history.

Angelou’s other works

‘Gather Together in My Name (1974) - Angelou’s follow-up to A Caged Bird, this memoir covers her life as an unemployed teenage mother in California, when she turned to narcotics and prostitution.

Singing and Swingin and Getting Merry Like Christmas (1976)  -  Angelou wrote this autobiography about her early career as a singer and actress.

The Heart of a Woman (1981) - Angelou crafted this memoir about leaving California with her son for New York, where she took part in the civil rights movement.

'All God's Children Need Traveling Shoes' (1986) - A lyrical exploration about what it means to be an African American in Africa, this autobiographical book covers the years Angelou spent living in Ghana.

'Wouldn't Take Nothing for My Journey Now' (1994) - This inspirational essay collection features Angelou’s insights about spirituality and living well.

A Song Flung Up to Heaven' (2002) - Another autobiographical work, A Song Flung Up to Heaven explores Angelou’s return from Africa to the U.S. and her ensuing struggle to cope with the devastating assassinations of two human rights leaders with whom she worked, Malcolm X and Martin Luther King Jr.

'Letter to My Daughter' (2008) - Dedicated to the daughter Angelou never had, this book of essays features Angelou’s advice for young women about living a life of meaning.

Mom & Me & Mom' (2013) - In this memoir, Angelou discusses her complicated relationship with a mother who abandoned her during childhood.

Cookbooks - Interested in health, Angelou’s published cookbooks include Hallelujah! The Welcome Table: A Lifetime of Memories With Recipes (2005) and Great Food, All Day Long (2010).

Angelou as a Screenplay Author and Director
After publishing Caged Bird, Angelou broke new ground artistically, educationally, and socially with her drama Georgia, Georgia in 1972, which made her the first African American woman to have her screenplay produced. In 1998, seeking new creative challenges, Angelou made her directorial debut with Down in the Delta, starring Alfre Woodard.

Accomplishments and Awards
Angelou's career has seen numerous accolades, including the Chicago International Film Festival's 1998 Audience Choice Award and a nod from the Acapulco Black Film Festival in 1999 for Down in the Delta. She also won two NAACP Image Awards in the outstanding literary work (nonfiction) category, for her 2005 cookbook and 2008's Letter to My Daughter.

Famous Friends
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.,
a close friend of Angelou's, was assassinated on her birthday (April 4) in 1968. Angelou stopped celebrating her birthday for years afterward, and sent flowers to King's widow, Coretta Scott King, for more than 30 years, until Coretta's death in 2006.

Angelou was also good friends with TV personality Oprah Winfrey, who organized several birthday celebrations for the award-winning author, including a week-long cruise for her 70th birthday in 1998.

        10 INSPIRING FACTS ABOUT MAYA ANGELOU

·       SHE WAS THE FIRST BLACK WOMAN TO CONDUCT A CABLE CAR IN SAN FRANCISCO.

·       PORGY AND BESS TOOK HER TO EUROPE.

·       SHE SPOKE SIX LANGUAGES.

·       SHE DIDN’T SPEAK FOR FIVE YEARS IN HER YOUTH.

·       SHE EDITED THE ARAB OBSERVER.

·       SHE WROTE AND DIRECTED SEVERAL MOVIES.

·       MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR. WAS ASSASSINATED ON HER BIRTHDAY.

·       SHE WAS ONLY THE SECOND POET IN HISTORY TO RECITE WORK AT A PRESIDENTIAL INAUGURATION.

·       SHE WAS AN AVID CHEF AND WROTE TWO COOKBOOKS.

·       SHE HAD HER OWN LINE OF HALLMARK GREETING CARDS

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The extraordinary life of Maya Angelou

Marguerite Annie Johnson Angelou known as Maya Angelou was an American author, civil rights activist, actress, screenwriter, dancer, poet and award-winning author best known for her award-winning memoir, “I Know Why the Caged Birds Sing” – the first American best seller by an African American woman. Angelou received several honors throughout her career, including two NAACP Image Awards in the outstanding literary work (nonfiction) category, in 2005 and 2009.

Early life

Born on April 4th, 1928 in St Louis, Missouri, Angelou had a difficult childhood. She and her brother Bailey had to live with her father’s mother in Arkansas after their parents split up. Not only she experienced firsthand racial discrimination during these early years, but she was also sexually assaulted by her mother’s boyfriend at the age of seven. Traumatized by this incident, Angelou stopped talking and stayed virtually silent for five years. During this silence, she found her love in poetry.

Angelou as the first black female cable car conductor

During the world War II Angelou moved to San Francisco, California, where she received a scholarship to study dance and acting at the California Labor School. Angelou became the first black female cable car conductor – a job that she held briefly.

Angelou as a singer, artist, and activist

In 1950s, she landed a role in a touring production of Porgy and Bess, later appearing in the off-Broadway production Calypso Heat Wave (1957) and releasing her first album, Miss Calypso (1957). Soon she became a member of the Harlem Writers Guild and a civil rights activist and she organized and starred in the musical revue Cabaret for Freedom as a benefit for the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, also serving as the SCLC's northern coordinator.  In 1961, Angelou appeared in an off-Broadway production of Jean Genet's The Blacks with James Earl Jones, Lou Gossett Jr. and Cicely Tyson. In 1973, Angelou went on to earn a Tony Award nomination for her role in a play – Look Away and an Emmy Award nomination for her work on the television miniseries Roots in 1977.

Angelou as an editor and a freelance writer

 

Living first in Egypt and then in Ghana, Angelou worked as an editor and a freelance writer in 1960s besides holding a position at the University of Ghana for a time. In Ghana, she also joined a community of "Revolutionist Returnees” exploring pan-Africanism and became close with human rights activist and Black nationalist leader Malcolm X. In 1964, upon returning to the United States, Angelou helped Malcolm X set up the Organization of Afro-American Unity.

Angelou’s famous poems

Angelou’s several collections of poetry gained fame but her most famous was “Just give me a cool drink ‘fore I Diie (1971)” which was also nominated for Pulitzer Prize.

Other famous collections of Angelou’s poetry include:

  • Oh Pray My Wings Are Gonna Fit Me Well (1975), which includes Angelou’s poem “Alone”
  • And Still I Rise (1978), which features the beloved poem “Phenomenal Woman”
  • Shaker, Why Don’t You Sing? (1983)
  • I Shall Not Be Moved (1990), featuring the poem “Human Family”; Apple famously used a video of Angelou reading this poem in an advertisement at the 2016 Olympics
  • Even the Stars Look Lonesome (1997)

 

In January 1993, Angelou recited On the Pulse of Morning, at the President Bill Clinton’s inaugural ceremony, a poem she especially wrote for this occasion. She won a Grammy award as the best-spoken word album, for the audio version of the poem.

Other well-known poems by Angelou include:

  • His Day Is Done” (1962), a tribute poem Angelou wrote for Nelson Mandela as he made his secret journey from Africa to London
  • “Amazing Peace” (2005), written by Angelou for the White House tree-lighting ceremony

Angelou’s Books

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings is Angelou’s enormously successful memoir about her childhood and young years. The poignant story made literary history as the first nonfiction bestseller by an African American woman. The book, which made Angelou an international star, continues to be regarded as her most popular autobiographical work. In 1995, Angelou was lauded for remaining on The New York Times' paperback nonfiction bestseller list for two years—the longest-running record in the chart's history.

Angelou and her work have inspired millions of Americans and the people of world. Her success and her work despite her difficult life paved the way for many African Americans writers, and millions of people across the globe for whom Maya Angelou is a true hero. This includes the youngest inaugural poet Amanda Gorman too, who proudly adorned the pendant of a caged bird during her recital at the President Biden’s inaugural address honoring Angelou’s I know why the caged bird sings.

1995, Angelou was lauded for remaining on The New York Times' paperback nonfiction bestseller list for two years—the longest-running record in the chart's history.

Angelou’s other works

‘Gather Together in My Name’ (1974) - Angelou’s follow-up to A Caged Bird, this memoir covers her life as an unemployed teenage mother in California, when she turned to narcotics and prostitution.

‘Singing and Swingin and Getting Merry Like Christmas’ (1976)  -  Angelou wrote this autobiography about her early career as a singer and actress.

‘The Heart of a Woman’ (1981) - Angelou crafted this memoir about leaving California with her son for New York, where she took part in the civil rights movement.

'All God's Children Need Traveling Shoes' (1986) - A lyrical exploration about what it means to be an African American in Africa, this autobiographical book covers the years Angelou spent living in Ghana.

'Wouldn't Take Nothing for My Journey Now' (1994) - This inspirational essay collection features Angelou’s insights about spirituality and living well.

‘A Song Flung Up to Heaven' (2002) - Another autobiographical work, A Song Flung Up to Heaven explores Angelou’s return from Africa to the U.S. and her ensuing struggle to cope with the devastating assassinations of two human rights leaders with whom she worked, Malcolm X and Martin Luther King Jr.

'Letter to My Daughter' (2008) - Dedicated to the daughter Angelou never had, this book of essays features Angelou’s advice for young women about living a life of meaning.

‘Mom & Me & Mom' (2013) - In this memoir, Angelou discusses her complicated relationship with a mother who abandoned her during childhood.

Cookbooks - Interested in health, Angelou’s published cookbooks include Hallelujah! The Welcome Table: A Lifetime of Memories With Recipes (2005) and Great Food, All Day Long (2010).

Angelou as a Screenplay Author and Director
After publishing Caged Bird, Angelou broke new ground artistically, educationally, and socially with her drama Georgia, Georgia in 1972, which made her the first African American woman to have her screenplay produced. In 1998, seeking new creative challenges, Angelou made her directorial debut with Down in the Delta, starring Alfre Woodard.

Accomplishments and Awards
Angelou's career has seen numerous accolades, including the Chicago International Film Festival's 1998 Audience Choice Award and a nod from the Acapulco Black Film Festival in 1999 for Down in the Delta. She also won two NAACP Image Awards in the outstanding literary work (nonfiction) category, for her 2005 cookbook and 2008's Letter to My Daughter.

Famous Friends
Martin Luther King Jr., a close friend of Angelou's, was assassinated on her birthday (April 4) in 1968. Angelou stopped celebrating her birthday for years afterward, and sent flowers to King's widow, Coretta Scott King, for more than 30 years, until Coretta's death in 2006.

Angelou was also good friends with TV personality Oprah Winfrey, who organized several birthday celebrations for the award-winning author, including a week-long cruise for her 70th birthday in 1998.

        10 INSPIRING FACTS ABOUT MAYA ANGELOU

·       SHE WAS THE FIRST BLACK WOMAN TO CONDUCT A CABLE CAR IN SAN FRANCISCO.

·       PORGY AND BESS TOOK HER TO EUROPE.

·       SHE SPOKE SIX LANGUAGES.

·       SHE DIDN’T SPEAK FOR FIVE YEARS IN HER YOUTH.

·       SHE EDITED THE ARAB OBSERVER.

·       SHE WROTE AND DIRECTED SEVERAL MOVIES.

·       MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR. WAS ASSASSINATED ON HER BIRTHDAY.

·       SHE WAS ONLY THE SECOND POET IN HISTORY TO RECITE WORK AT A PRESIDENTIAL INAUGURATION.

·       SHE WAS AN AVID CHEF AND WROTE TWO COOKBOOKS.

·       SHE HAD HER OWN LINE OF HALLMARK GREETING CARDS

 

 

 

 

 

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